Never Forget the Joy of Independence


Freedom looks good on me!

Sometimes I struggle with the fact that I have never had a real relationship. I begin to wonder what is wrong with me. I see couples all around me, my social media is flooded with  adventurous relationships, and the most discouraging part is that I am never the friend to get hit on. I remember one time I was at dinner with one of my girl friends, when this guy left his number with us and she said to me that he meant for her to have it not me. I have never been the friend to get the digits or the one to get asked on a date. I have never been the girl in the friend group with a boyfriend. 

When I think too deep about this it makes me want to cry, but then I remember how lucky I am for the opportunity to enjoy this special time. I get to be independent. As a single girl I get beautiful opportunities I might not have offers coming my way every time I turn around, but I get to discover my worth and who I am on my own. I know when a boy falls for me he will be falling for me alone. He will be a very special guy. I will be able to fall for him without having all my worth depend on him. I get to fall deeper in love with Jesus before I fall in love with any guy. I have been talking to some special friends about my heart ache and they have told me that there might just be a very genuine guy out there praying for a girl just like me. This makes my heart flutter a little, ok maybe a lot. Someday I will find a guy who likes me for me, all my weird quirks and all. 

In the mean time I am deciding to focus on what I can do as a single independent woman. I have got to travel and go through with things I never thought would actually happen. The past two summers I have had the amazing opportunity to travel and meet people from all over. I have been able to make some really special life long friendships. The other night I was having a really hard time with accepting my singleness. I had a guy start bugging me about why I have never had a relationship and it really got to me. When I was talking about this with one of my friends he reminded me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and Jesus has amazing plans for me. Then I started think and remind myself how lucky I am that I can do and go where ever I choose. I decided to  write a short letter to myself so I never forget this special season of my life. I wanted to share it to encourage you. 

Jourdyn, 

You are in such a special time of your life, a time you will never get back once it is gone. Do not waist it. Make the most of it so when you look back you have no regrets. Go out there meet people, make lasting friendships, and find who you want to be. Learn to love yourself more and just be FREE. 

Remember the day you went skiing by yourself? That was something you always dreamed of. Never forget the freedom you find in being on top of that mountain alone. Remember you used to throw up a little in your mouth when other girls would talk about how their life would be complete when they would get to serve their husbands? Remember the thrill of doing crazy things alone? You even found joy in those solo grocery runs. 

I know you hope to get married one day, but I also know you know your value. You know God has created you for a purpose which is not being bare foot in the kitchen. He put an even greater desire inside of you. Never let a man tell you, you're not equal to him, no matter how much you love him. You are strong, independent, smart, adventurous, spontaneous, and beautiful. You are HIS and that something you do not need a guy to prove. 

 I hope and pray you remember this when you find the one. Even though that will be wonderful, please  do not forget your value or your independence. 

 Love, 
Your Single Self 

This reminds me to be proud of who I am and no never look down on myself for my singleness. No matter how long I am single I never want to miss out on something God has for me.

P.S  No Matter what, I want to encourage, be an accountability partner to you, pray, and befriend you. I am on social media as @406_jourd on Instagram and @jourdynMack101 on Twitter, give me a follow and feel free to DM me anytime. If you ever need prayer or someone to talk to email me, jourdynpuppies@gmail.com, don't laugh it is from fourth grade and I stuck with it. 

P.P.S Want to see more encouraging posts? I used to write for Odyssey Online, so if you want to see more check out the link below.



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